Collect your supplies.
Decide your letter-writing method and get your supplies such as stationery or notecards.
Handwritten letters are the gold standard because your handwriting is an extension of you. It is personal and tactile. And don’t be the messy penmancer a deterrent: no one is expecting calligraphy. But there is nothing wrong with the letters typed; Ms. Davis likes to type Kho and then prints it. Either way, the point is to create a physical artwork that the person first receives as a surprise in the mailbox, and can then be placed as a meiosis.
Think about your recipient.
Once you decide who to write, think about the person and their role in your life. You don’t have to spend a lot of time, but remove any distractions and focus on some of the most cherished memories of this person. Think about how you met, what the recipient has done for you at what cost, what that person has said that you have never forgotten or the methods you have applied in your life. If you wish, jot down some bullet points or even a small outline, but do not finish the plan or get caught. A gratitude letter does not have to surround your entire relationship, or this person needs to cover everything for you. You can just say thank you for one thing.
Sit and write
If this makes you more comfortable, you can start by stating the reason for reaching the letter. Ms. Davis Kho began her letters by explaining that this was a milestone birthday for her, and she was writing to those who had changed her life. You can say that you were inspired by this article. Or, you can keep your letter-writing reasons to yourself and just start with “Thank you”.
Think about your brainstorm, and, using suggestive descriptions, tell the person why you are ungrateful. It may be the exact word that you remember this person saying, and where you were when you were told. Add it to how you felt – then and now. The recipient may remember the event or side you are referring to, but the person most likely does not know how he / she felt you (thank you, perhaps, but also, perhaps, joyful? Safe? Relieved? Inspired?) Don’t hold back. It takes a little bravery, but writing honestly and heartily turns a humble note into a meaningful memento.
Write in your style.
Don’t worry about preparing each sentence. You are trying to get the meaning behind the words. If you can, try to write your way of speaking. Imagine the person is on the phone: what would you say?
You may actually get stuck choosing to say no. But Mr. Kumar suggested you remember that your recipient will not check your choice of words.
“They’re just reading what you have to say, and thinking, ‘This is really good,” he said. “They’re not thinking, ‘Well, how could this be good?”